Intro..Extro..Retro..who cares?

24 Mar

Introvert….extrovert….

Does it even matter?!

The new book, The Introvert Advantage, speaks to the strengths that introverts possess. We’ve been given a bad rap over the years and labeled as shy, awkward, uncomfortable, and lacking the ability to be around people and have a conversation.

Dr. Laney, the author of The Introvert Advantage, dispels many of these myths, explaining how while introverts enjoy time by themselves, they work well with others and are highly intuitive, maintain close friendships (but with fewer individuals than do extroverts), are more self-contained, and are great listeners.

He points out that many high profile people are introverts- scientists, writers, and many artists. It is not that they are withdrawn and lonely nerds who are shut-ins and lack social skills, rather, they appreciate being alone to explore and muse on possibilities, to self-reflect, to responsibly assess their surroundings and their impact on the world and on others, to be creative, and to be observers! They relish their independence– it is not a source of loneliness.

I love being with people, but I do find it exhausting at times. I’m filled up by the closeness of friends and the connection I derive from my relationships. But unlike a person who wants to be out and about with their buddies all the time, I value the quiet space of my dining room table, laptop perched in front of me, the sun streaming through the window. Lonely? Not at all. Alone? Yep, and I crave it.

Dr. Laney explains that it is the source of their energy that separates intros and extros. I talk all the time about finding your strengths, working with them, and assessing how you’d like to change but doing so in a manner that is not guided by what you may be perceiving in a negative way “should” be modified.

Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, embrace you.

 

 

 

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3 Responses to “Intro..Extro..Retro..who cares?”

  1. Sondra March 24, 2012 at 12:08 PM #

    Thank you Kori. That really put a lot in perspective for me. I am absolutely an introvert but I will look at it as my strength now instead of something to get over.

  2. Donloree March 31, 2012 at 8:40 AM #

    And the book is now on hold. I am often alone, but rarely lonely!

    • kpropst April 2, 2012 at 8:59 AM #

      On hold doesn’t have to mean “forgotten.” 🙂 What you do in the interim will enhance the book when and if you do pick it up again!

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